Why Your Subconscious Mind Wants to Keep You Safe [ep.144]

12 Sept

So if you want to achieve those mind-blowing results you desire, we need to break you free from the safety loop by embracing the unknown and stepping outside of your familiar routines and habits. Easier said than done, right? Trust me, I get it. That's why I'm here to guide you through the process in today's podcast episode!

Topics covered on Why Your Subconscious Mind Wants to Keep You Safe:

How can understanding the role of safety in your subconscious mind help you overcome hesitation and resistance?
Why do you feel unsafe when you're trying to change your reality and step out of your comfort zone?
The reasons why your subconscious mind tries to keep you safe.
How does your evolutionary legacy influence our subconscious mind?
Why does your subconscious mind prefer the known, even if it isn't ideal?
Building the muscle of embracing the unknown and making it feel safe.
Why does your subconscious mind love routines and habits, and how does it conserve mental energy?
How can the stages of learning help you understand the effort required to change your thoughts and behaviors?
The impact past failures and traumatic experiences have on your subconscious beliefs and the need for safety.
Creating a sense of safety as you move towards new beliefs and realities in your business.

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"Our subconscious prefers the known, even if the known isn't ideal, because it feels safer." - Rebecca Haydon

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[00:00:00] Welcome to The Higher Self and I your go-to podcast that will release you of your victim mindset and become your one way ticket towards the mind blowing results you desire in your life and your business. I'm your host, Rebecca Haydon Mindset and business mentor ready to help. You unlock your mindset into gear and empower you to step into the person you always knew you were meant to be.

[00:00:37] A badass, c e o, who is here to claim her fricking millionaire life. Ready to find out what life could be like if you just did the thing. Let's go baby. Hello, gorgeous lady. Welcome back to Higher Self, and I thank you for tuning in again. I love, love the comments that have been coming through from Higher Self and I at the moment, and I know a lot of the episodes have been really resonating with you.

[00:01:03] So thank you, thank you, thank you for just tuning in and being here every week. And. I wanted to say if there's anything that you want me to talk on, if there are any topics that you want me to dive into from a subconscious or a neuroscience perspective, please do let me know. I'm always open, uh, for ideas, for questions.

[00:01:25] I might even do a Q and A podcast very, very soon. But with that being said, today we are actually looking at safety and. Why we revert back to safety subconsciously, even if it doesn't serve us So, When we look at safety, it is the primal job of the subconscious mind. We, you've heard me say that a hundred million times.

[00:01:54] I know you have. So we want to be in safety, and I talk a lot about safety with my clients, especially when we are creating new neural pathways, when we're creating new beliefs for a new reality that they want. It can feel really unsafe. It can feel really, you know, almost like you wanna run and hide. You wanna jump out of your body.

[00:02:17] You want to, you know, turn off all social media and the whole business and just kind of be in your little cocoon of safety, especially when you're moving to quote unquote, the next level of your business. And. It feels different to how you've been doing things. Maybe it's a different way of showing up on social media.

[00:02:38] Maybe it's a different way of running your schedule. Maybe it's a different way of selling. Maybe it's a different way of showing up and speaking to your audience and all of these things because they feel so new. Feel really fucking scary. Don't they? You know, we, we go to do it and maybe we [00:03:00] feel a little bit like a novice, maybe we feel that, oh, I dunno what I'm doing.

[00:03:04] Oh no, I can't do it this way. Maybe we feel, um, like. Almost people are watching you trying to shift through. There's loads of things that come through when we're trying to change that reality and change out of our comfort zone and, and step into the business owner that we want to be or step into the way that we want to organize our business or step into the way that we wanna run our life, or step into the way that we wanna travel while having the business.

[00:03:33] And actually, it can feel really, really scary. And I wanted to have a look at this today from kind of two aspects, from the aspect of why we do it. Because I think understanding why we revert back to safety, even if it doesn't serve us, is really helpful for you to know. It's really helpful for you to understand.

[00:03:53] We're gonna have a look from a subconscious. Perspective. There's a little bit of neuroscience in today as well, but kind of looking at why we revert back to safety, first of all, and then I'm going to chat through what to do to get out of what I call the safety loop. So I used to play this a lot in the business because I'm very good at stories.

[00:04:14] I can sell very well on stories. Clients flow quite naturally and easily. To me, it wasn't always like that way PS but that is my safety, you know, that's something that feels safe for me. It feels safe for me to show up on stories. It feels safe for me to sell every day. It feels safe for me to sell my one-to-one packages and actually going through this new iteration of my business, of what I want it to look like next and what I want my life to look like and, and actually where I want to go next as as a human, as where I want to progress to.

[00:04:45] That has felt so unsafe. It has felt so, so unsafe. And I'll talk about that today as well. 'cause I know how much you like when I share what I'm going through as well. Um, and what happens is if I'm not careful and if I'm not conscious, I will revert back to just doing stories and selling one-to-one, which.

[00:05:08] To some people might be like, Beck, that is what I want, but that is my complete safety now because I've done it for so long and I know what works and I can rinse and repeat. I can do it very easily. So that is my comfort zone. So anytime I'm trying to go outside of that, for example, at the moment we're, we are building a really.

[00:05:30] Intricate strategic funnel on the backend, and I had the team over and we, we mapped it all out and I'm putting the emails in and I'm writing the emails, and I know that this is going to really enhance me bringing in incredible women into my, my world. But that brings up a lot of unsafety for me because it is something.

[00:05:53] Different. It's something that I've never done before. It is completely new to me. I'm learning new skills, I'm learning [00:06:00] new things, and, and I am absolutely granted. I have a team that supports me with that, you know? I hate email marketing, and I've got someone who's supporting me with that. So yes, I think it looks slightly different when you're stepping into that next level of your business, but it's the same preface across your subconscious mind because it's just trying to keep you safe.

[00:06:22] So let's dive into the reasons why your subconscious is actually trying to keep you safe, because I know. I see you. You have a goal or a dream or a desire or something on your vision board, and you know exactly what that looks like. Maybe you do a lot of visualization around it. Maybe you have done a lot of research around it.

[00:06:44] Maybe you know exactly what needs to be done to actually start moving yourself towards that. But when it comes to taking that leap there, like I said before, is. Hesitation, there's holding back. A lot of the times, and this is why I love Voxer so much with my clients, is we actually sabotage our own progress and it sabotage can show up in so many aspects.

[00:07:13] It was, it's definitely a topic that I really want to do a podcast episode on, but. Sabotaging our own process and our own progress is one of the telltale signs that we feel unsafe because the subconscious is so clever, it is so, so clever that a lot of the time you'll be sabotaging for maybe a day, a week, a month, four months, a year, and you won't even realize.

[00:07:48] You know, you're like, oh, okay. Wow. And when we have that conversation, and I think with my clients in my one-to-one containers, we pick up the sabotage very quickly. And because I teach them and really educate them on how to become so aware of themselves and their thoughts and their feelings and their actions, I.

[00:08:05] We pick it up quite quickly, but I wanted to go in today of as to why that is happening. So let's start by understanding the subconscious mind a bit better. So our subconscious mind is almost like, um, like a little silent guardian. Okay. It is. Always, and when I say always, I mean always working in the background to keep us safe and to keep us secure.

[00:08:30] And the subconscious has been fine tuned to prioritize our survival above all. So it's primal job is to keep us safe and to keep us alive so if anything feels unsafe or if anything starts to mirror that our survival could be. Inpo potential threat, that's when it's going to kick off. And our subconscious mind often [00:09:00] clings to safety.

[00:09:00] Even when consciously, and I know you know this consciously, like the taking the risks, the stepping out of your comfort zone. You can see all of these things in front of you that you are like, no, Beck, yes, consciously. I know that's gonna get me what I want consciously. I know if I just. Fricking did this thing.

[00:09:19] It probably would help me or consciously I know if I actually put this out there, or if I actually created this, or if I actually moved my body, or if I actually looked at my finances. I know this might lead to growth and success, but why away do I keep stopping myself? So here are some key insights into the reason why our subconscious mind.

[00:09:45] Often clings to safety. So the first one is actually evolutionary and the whatever it was, cavemen who, whatever you wanna believe in, they played it safe because they were trying to survive and. The ones who actually took the unnecessary risks, often faced the consequences. I'm gonna say eg. The lion eating them.

[00:10:18] So as a result, our brains that have been passed down years, years, the hundred thousand, million years, our brains have been wired to. To actually ear on the side of caution because we never know when that lion is going to be there. And I think I said this in a podcast episode a while back, where it's like we as as humans now in 2023, we.

[00:10:44] Act as if the lion is outside our front door all the time. You know, like that's how we behave. Things are going to be that. It's going like the the what if, the what if it all goes wrong? The worst case scenario, thinkers. The play in the fear till the end. All of these things, we almost amplify what it is.

[00:11:04] We know it never happens that way. We know it never comes to fruition in that sense, but because of the evolutionary legacy that's been left. Before us, um, we as a result are wired to seek the caution we ear on the side of caution, guys. So I think first of all, it's, it's not an excuse. It's not something that you can go, well, I'm obviously not, you know, selling every day on stories because the evolutionary legacy.

[00:11:35] Yep, it, the cavemen did it to me and that's why I'm not selling on stories. This is not for you to use as an excuse. It is just me actually telling you. Number two is actually the fear of the unknown. So the subconscious is naturally averse to uncertainty, and it prefers the known, even if the known isn't ideal.

[00:11:58] Because it feels safer. [00:12:00] Let me say that again. It prefers the known even if the known isn't ideal because it feels safer. So let's put that into your business perspective or your life perspective. What do you. What is your known right now? And that might be something that you could journal on. What is my known, may known is now sounding wrong?

[00:12:25] You know what I mean? But what is my known right now? And it might not, it might be the known that you don't want, it might be the the situation that you actually don't want, but because it is the known to you that feels safer for you right now. What is the unknown? And how can we make that feel safer?

[00:12:48] We're gonna get into this during today's podcast episode, but I'm, I'm going there. I'm going there. So the fear of the unknown can keep us rooted in our comfort zones, which is why we revert back to that same way of doing things. Same way of eating, same way of showering, same way of walk-ins. Like we, we have those knowns in our life.

[00:13:09] And actually, when you are moving into the unknown, Again, that's where the unsafety comes from, and there's an exercise that I do a lot. I move to the other side of the world, part of the exercise where I throw myself into the unknown because it actually makes the unknown less scary and. The more you can practice being in the in the unknown.

[00:13:37] And I say to my clients like, this could be like the smallest things. This could be buying a different butter. It could, that was literally the first example that just came to my head. It could be going to a restaurant that you've never been to before. It could be taking a different walk route on your walk.

[00:14:00] There is so many micro things that we can do that are unknown in our day, that we can actually build the muscle of not fearing the unknown so much. How many times this has happened to me? Like, how many times have you gone, ah, up, maybe I'll just turn down here today on my walk. And it literally takes you to the most incredible place and you're like, what?

[00:14:23] This has been on my doorstep for this many years and I, how have I not found this? You know, it's because, Really kind of getting into the unknown. Me and Jack did it the other day. We walked up the rein, which is a hellish walk. If anyone ever does it, please let me know 'cause it's hell. Um, great advertisement for the rein here.

[00:14:44] But we, we walked all the way up and Jack had never done it before, so he was the, in the unknown. I've done it probably. 50 times in my life. Like we used to do it a lot when I was, when I lived in Telford before I moved to Australia. And [00:15:00] so I know, I know what the walk is like. I know it's hell. I know it's pretty much a hill climb most of the way.

[00:15:07] And when we got to the top, Jack said, oh, should we go down this way? And I was like, oh, I've never been down that way. Like, I'm not sure where it leads. I'm not sure where it's gonna be, like, is it gonna be safe? And I almost didn't go that way because I was like, no, no, let, let's just go back down the way we know, like the way I know.

[00:15:27] What, like, I was just like, Becky, why are we making a deal about this? Just go this way. And we went that way. And actually it was down the side of the wreaking, which was like, beautiful. Um, it was a beautiful view to the right, like the, the stu like the views are insane. I dunno whether you saw my stories on the weekend, but the views are insane and the path was actually way better for my knees.

[00:15:48] I struggle. I have really bad knees from dancing, so going downhill on a rocky surface really affects my knees. And we started this walk and the whole of that walk that we decided to go that was different, that was unknown, was like muddy and grass. So it was so much better for me anyway. So I was like, there you go.

[00:16:06] You know, we, we revert to the safety because we know it and we almost get a buzz from knowing it. We always, we almost get that like, ha ha, well I know which way I'm going. La, la la la la. But whereas when I went to to the Root where I was like, I have no clue where this is gonna come out. Are we going the right way?

[00:16:24] Like, are we gonna be stuck on the re for the rest of the day? I don't know, but let's fricking go for it because you only live once. Yolo. Um, And it, it ended up being very, very good. So the fear of the unknown, we can actually start to build the muscle around that. And the only way to do that is keep putting yourself in unknown situations, not to the extent that you hurt yourself or that it's dangerous for you.

[00:16:50] But you know, there's a couple of things that you've been really wanting to try. Maybe it's a new yoga class that you wanna go to. You know, everyone gets the fear of unknown on a, on a fitness class, don't you? You book in and you're like, oh my God. Like, where do I put my shoes? Where am I gonna park? Is it Oh, do I know anyone there?

[00:17:08] Is anyone gonna be there? Am I gonna be the only one in the class? Am I gonna enjoy it? We get the fear of the unknown, right? But the more that we do that, the more you go and you're like, oh, well she's just told me where to put my shoes. The parking was right outside. Um, everyone was nice in the class.

[00:17:23] Cool. I'll do that again. And like within seconds, you are over that fear of the unknown, but you've built it up so huge in your head before you get there. Before you get there. Don't tell me you haven't done that with a fitness class. Don't tell me. Um, So we, we can really start to flex that muscle of the fear of the unknown.

[00:17:43] Going back to why our subconscious takes us back to the safety now, sorry, I'm going off on a hundred tangents today, but number three is habits and familiar familiarity. Wow. Cannot say that word today. Now our subconscious loves routines and habits, [00:18:00] and I think I said this on a couple of episodes back, um, around the decision fatigue is.

[00:18:07] Actually, when we're in the routines and habits of our everyday life, we can serve mental energy by defaulting to what's familiar. So even if a new path could lead to better outcomes, which we know the subconscious is going to resist it because it requires more effort, and this is something that I speak about, oh, day in and day out with my clients because it is really.

[00:18:38] I was gonna say hard then, and I don't wanna use that word. It is, it's a, it's a different way of thinking when you are changing old thoughts. It requires energy, it requires effort, it requires conscious thinking, and it requires it very heavily, it's a workout class when we're changing, when we're changing thoughts, when we're changing behaviors.

[00:19:04] Because like I said, Our subconscious loves routines and habits and to conserve its mental energy. It defaults to what's familiar. So when we are taking on. New thoughts, new habits in the business, new way of doing things, uh, new way of speaking, new way of writing content, new way of doing the, you know, like whatever you are doing, your subconscious might resist it because it requires more effort.

[00:19:36] And we don't like effort. And when we're going through this, this is something that I was gonna speak about at the end of the podcast, but I might as well dive in now because it's a perfect segue. When we are, when we are doing something that requires more effort, when we are changing habits, when we're changing beliefs.

[00:19:58] We have to be in the consciously competent stage of learning. Now, I've talked about the stages of learning a lot. If you haven't heard it before, I'm gonna quickly go through it so you can actually understand what the hell I'm on about because the stages of learning is, is actually really, um, it's really clever to know when you are changing.

[00:20:28] Your thoughts, your feelings, your actions and results. Because when we know, when we know the stages of learning, you can actually be like, oh, okay, I'm in conscious competence right now, and that means that I'm going to have to think more about what I'm doing. I'm gonna have to really understand what I'm doing, and I'm gonna have to really, really think about it.

[00:20:55] So, Let's just do a little dive in. Sorry for those who have heard this before, [00:21:00] but it's another lesson and you might hear something different this time. So, number one stages of learning is unconscious incompetence. You don't know what you don't know. That's the end of it. You know, you, you actually, you don't know that you don't have the skill or you need to learn it.

[00:21:21] That's it. You dunno what you don't know and you don't know that you need to know it either. Number two is conscious in competence. So that's when we know that we don't have the skill. So the stage before is we don't have the skill and we don't know that we need to know it. Then conscious incompetence is, I know.

[00:21:44] That I don't have the skill. So actually now we feel a little uncomfortable and we have to commit to learning the process to proceed to the next level. So I don't know. I don't know the skills, but I know I need the skills. Then we move into the third stage of learning, which is conscious competence. I know I have the skill.

[00:22:12] So at conscious competence, we know that we need the skill, we've learned the skill, but we still have to really think about it. So we have to put efforts into concentrating whilst using this skill. So what I use that this with is driving. Before you, Dr. Before you started driving, you didn't know that you needed to drive or you needed to learn it way back when.

[00:22:43] When you turn 17, you go into conscious incompetence. I know I don't have the skill and I need to book a driving to teacher to teach me this skill. You then start having lessons so you become consciously competent. I've got the skill 10 and two, up and down, left and right. Look at the mirror, do the thing, clutch up like you are doing.

[00:23:06] It's very, very robotic. Very robotic. You have to think about everything. I remember coming off driving lessons, being knackered, like knackered because the concentration of all the moving parts in the car is taking a lot of brain energy. And that's why when we're stepping out of our comfort zone so often, it's gonna take quite a bit of energy.

[00:23:31] We need to start to reserve that. That's an a podcast for another day. The last one is unconscious competence. So that's when you know the skill. You are now a master and it's integrated so much that it's become second nature and it's very subconscious. So unconscious competence means that it's that.

[00:23:55] Integrated within your subconscious that you can perform it without really thinking [00:24:00] about it. Which is why I know I use this metaphor so often about the car, but you go and drive the car and you get to the place and you're like, I have no clue how I've Dr. Driven here today. I have no clue. Because you are that unconsciously competent.

[00:24:15] So going back to this, the kind of. Subconscious and why it reverts back to the safety with the habits and the, and the kind of routines that it loves to be in. When we're changing and moving out of our comfort zone, doing something different in our business, doing a different way of doing things, it's going to require more effort, which is why in my one-to-one mentorship, I create the.

[00:24:42] Base for my clients first. That's why we always go to the base of the c e O operations. Like we get in like them being able to have their content mapped out and planned or their timetable schedule, diary, whatever you call it, sorted. Like all of those things that TA that are taking effort for them. I get that sorted first.

[00:25:05] Then we start the next level. Then we start the up level because we need to have things in place that are not making them feel like they require more effort. Because I know in a minute I'm gonna start working on their belief system. I'm gonna start working on maybe different ways of writing content, and that's gonna require more effort.

[00:25:27] So I don't wanna add even more effort onto the effort that we've already done so we can kind of create the little blocks of the house as we build it. So, I want you to just take what you need from, from what I just said about the stages of learning, and if you find yourself going back to safety, it's probably because you are not being consciously competent at the thing that you're trying to move towards.

[00:25:55] And consciously competent means that you need it in your awareness. Because we as humans, we need that visual cue. We're very easy to forget. We're very easy to switch back, revert back, you know, like, exactly like I've just said, our subconscious loves habits and routines, so it's gonna go back to the old ways because it's familiar to us.

[00:26:17] We've thought, we've thought it and we've done it for. How many months, how many years? So when you are bringing in new beliefs or you are bringing in a new story or a new way of doing things, or a new way of being within your business, it's gonna be quite conscious and it's gonna require more effort. And that's just the way it is.

[00:26:35] I. Changing your subconscious even through hypnotherapy and hypnotherapy does really aid the process quicker, but it still requires you to show up for yourself, and that's when I see the biggest changes with my clients is when they do stick in the conscious competence for long enough. Because a lot of the time people go into conscious competence where you are, you are like, oh my [00:27:00] God, I've got this new skill and this is amazing.

[00:27:02] Two days later, you are back doing what you've always done before because you are not, you're not bringing the effort into what that new reality needs to look like. And then the last one that I wanna speak about today as to why we go back to that safety. Is neg like experiences, so Big T little T traumas, the subconscious imprints that we talk about.

[00:27:26] So whether it's past failures, whether it's a traumatic experience, whether it's something that someone said to you, it can literally be such a passing comment. But in that moment for you, it left that deep imprint into our subconscious and. Our subconscious remembers the pain, the emotion that we experience, and a lot of our limiting beliefs have the biggest emotional pull around it.

[00:27:56] So when we've had like a really, again, the a traumatic, and I use that word lightly, some of these can literally, you know, some of the things that I've gone back to with my clients have been. The way that a, a, a primary school teacher has said something to them about cutting a circle. Now, you wouldn't look at that and think it was traumatic, but actually to her, it took on the fact that she, she could never do things very well.

[00:28:20] So she just let, she started to live her life. That anything I do, I don't do it very well. And we went back to the place where a teacher was standing over her and she was cutting a circle out, and the teacher said that she cut this circle out wrong. So sometimes it can be the smallest things that you don't even think about at the blink of an eyelid.

[00:28:40] Like some, some of them can be huge. We can go straight back to that, that at the, the traumatic experience that you've been through. But the subconscious remembers the pain and it wants to protect us from experiencing it again, even, even if we know consciously as the adult that we are now, even if we know the situation has changed.

[00:29:01] And that is why. Come rain, a wind or shine, the first thing I do with my clients when we're moving to that next level and we're stepping out of their comfort zone, and we are really trying to reach the next level of whatever that looks like for them, whatever that is, it's going back to. The stories and the beliefs that they've had before, because those beliefs are holding them in the story.

[00:29:28] Those beliefs are holding them in the comfort because it is not safe to move from it. This is where the safety dance got made. I don't, I think I've talked about the safety dance on the podcast. Um, So those are a couple of things that I see. Let's just go back. So we are just looking right now at why our subconscious mind prioritizes safety and security.

[00:29:53] Number one, that evolutionary legacy. You know, they often took risks back in the day [00:30:00] and face dire consequences, and as a result, our brains have been wired to ear on the side of caution. Number two, the fear of the unknown. So we are naturally averse to. Uncertainty and the subconscious mind prefers the known, even if the known isn't ideal, but it feels safer either way.

[00:30:21] Number three, habits and routines. The subconscious loves habits and routines, so it conserves mental energy by default into what's familiar. Even if the new path could lead to better outcomes, the subconscious might resist it because it requires more effort. And then number four is the limiting beliefs or experiences that you've had, the, whether it's past failures, traumatic experiences, leaving those deep imprints in our subconscious, and the subconscious straight away remembers the pain and needs to protect us from experiencing it again.

[00:30:55] So, Now we've understood why our subconscious mind tends to prioritize safety. We can now learn how to come over how to overcome this. And I've talked a lot about how to overcome this in like actual practical strategies. I. In today's podcast anyway, but just to kind of recap, so I would first of all have a look at your safety loop.

[00:31:20] So what is my safety loop? Every time I feel like I'm stepping out of my comfort zone or I'm doing something different, or I'm trying something different, new, uh, something new that's different in my business, try and have a look at. What the safety loop is. So what is, what is actually triggering you to go back to the safety?

[00:31:46] Is it a thought? Yes, probably. So what thoughts are taking you back to your comfort zone? What thoughts are taking you back to the safety loop? And then I would actually have a look, and I can kind of vision this in my head of like having a piece of paper with a circle, with like a kind of a loop that goes round.

[00:32:04] What takes you into the loop and what do you have to do to complete the loop and to get back out. Because if we can have a look at actually what takes you into the loop in the first place, then we can stop going in the loop. Right? You know, every time we go in the loop, you have to play this same thing around again.

[00:32:21] And then you get out of the loop and then you're like, no, I'm going to get out of my comfort zone. You get outta your comfort zone, you do the thing, you go back into the loop 'cause it feels unsafe. You go round the loop. You know, we don't wanna keep going around in loops. Loop de loops. We wanna be on that straight and forward motion towards our dreams and realities.

[00:32:38] So what is that thing that's triggering you back into the safety? And have a look what the loop looks like. Is it sabotaging for a day? Is it, um, Not going on social media at all. Like what are the, what are some of the things that you do to keep yourself in that safety? So knowing your safety loop, that's the [00:33:00] first thing I would do.

[00:33:01] I spoke about kind of having that known unknown. What is my known right now? Is it serving me? Are the thoughts in my known serving me? What is my unknown? What do I want my unknown to look like? And one of the questions that I always say to my clients is, how can we make that feel safe? How can we make the unknown feel safe?

[00:33:23] How can we make this next level of your business feel safe? Lots of different questions that I go through when we're looking at the safety, and that's something that I do with my one-to-ones. All the time because that's when we start to build a sustainable, not only a sustainable business, but a sustainable mindset shift.

[00:33:42] 'cause we have to create the safety into the next belief that we're moving towards it. We have to. So that's where the safety dance took to, took to place, came from. Took place. Need to put my teeth back in. So there's a couple of things that you can do. I want you to go and just have a look. But I think more than anything, it's the awareness of why you're going back into the safety.

[00:34:04] What is your subconscious protecting you from? What part is showing up for you that's trying to keep you safe, and how can we talk to that part and really let them know, hey, like. I really want you to come with me. I want you to support me. I'm, we are gonna do this together. And yes, of course it's gonna feel unsafe, it's gonna feel clunky, it's gonna feel messy, but within one day, two day, three day, six weeks, six months of me doing it, it's then gonna be my normal, and quite frankly, it'll then be your comfort zone, and then you have to work through the next one.

[00:34:39] You were doing things. This time last year that you no longer do, or you are in a place in your life or your business this year that you weren't last year. So that's proof and evidence to you that things can change. So just allow yourself to understand that you're feeling unsafe. And call it like I call it to myself all the time.

[00:35:03] Like, okay, oh, okay, I can feel the unsafety, I can feel it in my chest. This is where it is. What's the message behind the unsafety? What do I need to do to make myself feel safe in this here now moment? And how can I make the, the, the. Getting out of my comfort zone. How can I make this next step in my business feel as safe as possible?

[00:35:27] What do I need to have in place? What do I need to remember? What do I need to be saying to myself for that to feel safe? So go forth, create the safety baby, and I will see you in the next episode. Your love and support means the absolute world to me with this podcast. So if you have enjoyed the episode today, please make sure that you are sharing.

[00:35:49] Or reviewing or even rating the podcast because it allows me to get into more ear rolls. Now, if we are not connected on Instagram, head over [00:36:00] and add me at underscore Rebecca Haydon underscore. Come and say hello. I'd love to see you there and I will see you on the next episode.

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