The Biggest Subconscious Shifts Aren’t in What You Do, They’re in How You See Yourself [ep. #225]
Hello lovely lady and welcome to The Subconscious Expert!
The biggest subconscious shifts aren’t in what you do; they’re in how you see yourself. Back in 2021, when my business took off, people kept asking me what my secret was. How did I become so successful so quickly? Let me share what I told them back then.
I stopped chasing success and instead started embodying it. I didn't wait for proof. I BECAME proof. And I'm going to teach you how to do the same!
Join me in today's episode as we dive into the real reasons why you're not moving as fast as you know you're capable of—and spoiler alert, it’s not about needing more strategies or hours in the day.
I’ll walk you through identifying the subconscious beliefs that are keeping you stuck, help you define the next-level version of yourself who already has it all, and we'll rewire your subconscious mind to step into that identity TODAY. So grab a mirror, buckle in, and let’s get to work!
Topics covered on Subconscious Shifts:
How can you identify the subconscious beliefs that are holding you back?
What does it mean to embody your success instead of chasing it?
How do you identify your next-level version of yourself and align your actions with her?
Journal prompts that will help you reflect on your subconscious beliefs and subconsciously shift into the next-level version of yourself.
What steps can you take to make a subconscious shift and step into the next-level version of yourself?
Journal Prompts on Subconscious Shifts:
Your Current Identity
Who are you BEING behind the scenes?
What version of yourself are you running your business from?
Is she the one who’s already built the empire? Or is she still the one hoping it will happen someday?":
What are 3 subconscious beliefs I currently hold about myself as a business owner?
How do these beliefs impact the way I show up, sell, and execute my strategy?
If my business was a mirror of my self-concept, what is it reflecting back to me right now?
Defining Your Next-Level Identity
If I already had XX£ months, how would I structure my day?
If I already had thousands of people watching my every move, how would I show up online?
If I already knew my success was inevitable, what decisions would I make differently today?
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Quote:
"Stop chasing success and start embodying it." - Rebecca Haydon
Transcription:
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[00:00:00] You are listening to The Subconscious Expert, the podcast where your subconscious becomes your one way ticket to the mind blowing results you desire in your life and business. I've said it before, and I will say it a hundred times again. Your business cannot outgrow your mindset. And if you want to grow your business, it always starts with growing your subconscious.
So let's dive into the subconscious breakthrough you so deeply deserve.
Well, hello my gorgeous honey pie, welcome back to the Subconscious Expert. Get your mirrors ready. Get your bloody mirrors ready because today, we are having a look at you. We are holding the mirror up to you and having a look at how You see yourself feeling comfortable yet good buckle in because the biggest shifts aren't in what you do [00:01:00] they are in how you see yourself this is truly going to be the episode that changes you And I want you to listen to this episode with such incredible self awareness because we are about to go deep into the real reasons you're not moving at the speed that you know you're capable of.
And it is not because you need another freaking strategy tweak. It's not because you need more hours in the day, and it is not because you need to figure it all out first. It's because you're still seeing yourself as the entrepreneur who doesn't have it yet. And as long as your subconscious sees success as something you're working towards, it will always feel just out of reach.
So today, We are rewiring the [00:02:00] way you see yourself from the inside out. Once you change this, your entire business changes. Are you ready? Let's go.
So, we know your subconscious is is running the show and right now we know predominantly it's keeping you where you are. Every single person I've worked with, including myself, yes I work with myself, who has scaled fast, whether it's from 10k to 50k, whether it's from being completely invisible to the absolute go to in their niche, they all have one thing in common.
And this is truly, truly, truly the thing that blew my business up back in 2021. They stopped chasing success. And they started embodying it and I remember back then when everyone was asking me what I'm [00:03:00] doing, how I'm doing it, why I'm being so successful all of a sudden, all I kept saying, and if you listen back to the podcast that I interviewed that I was being interviewed on at that time, all I kept saying was, I'm embodying what I am selling.
I am embodying the success that I desire. I didn't wait for proof, I became the fucking proof. I didn't wait to feel confident, I moved as if I already Well, I didn't keep working towards the next level. I started running my business as if I was already at that level. And this is why I and other clients have scaled at this quantum speed that everyone talks about, because your subconscious creates your reality.
So if down, if deep down, you don't believe you're the one in your niche or in your industry, you will hold [00:04:00] yourself back from being fully seen. If deep down you associate money, making more money with more stress, you are going to unconsciously cap your own income. If deep down you believe that success is hard, you will keep overcomplicating things in your business.
So it still feels hard. So many entrepreneurs think their problem is external, but a lot of the time it is internal. So if you're constantly overthinking every decision, if you're holding back in launches, even though you want to go all in, if you're underpricing because it feels safer, if you are self sabotaging your visibility, it's you.
And until we shift that, you will keep hitting the same income, the same level of visibility, the same feeling of why the hell am I not moving [00:05:00] faster? So, here's the real questione. Who are you being behind the scenes? Not just in your stories, not just in your content, behind the fucking scenes. What version of yourself are you running your business from?
Where is it going? How is it happening? And what I see with these blocks that are keeping you small is You are still loyal to this old identity. And this is where most people resist. And I work with that resistance day in, day out in WhatsApp with my clients. Because when we talk about stepping into your next level identity, we're not just talking about thinking new thoughts.
Being the newbie, we're talking about releasing the version of you that kept [00:06:00] you really, really safe until now. She's done a really fucking good job of getting you to where you are, and kept you very safe while doing it. And that version of you She is now comfortable. She is now familiar. I have a lot of clients come and work with me who feel they're in the sweatpants season of their business.
They've got comfortable, they've got familiar, they're doing quite well, but they know deep down how Oh my god, amazing their business could be. And even if you're frustrated with where you are right now, your brain prefers the sweatpants. It prefers the familiar over the unknown. Which is why growth feels so freaking uncomfortable.
Which is why the predominant, uh, rest of the world doesn't do the growth works. It feels uncomfortable. But we are in a place, you are in a space Where you get to keep growing, [00:07:00] oh my god, like, this is why I do the work that I do. And growth, yes, feels uncomfortable, but my god what it brings. My god what it brings.
The way that my life is now, versus what it was back then, I couldn't even, it blows my mind, still. It still blows my mind. The fact that I have grown my business. Whilst being on maternity leave, having a baby, bringing my fiancé into the business, paying him a full time wage, putting savings, house, but like, what the hell?
Like, imagine if I just stayed safe? Imagine if I never started this business when I was in Australia? Like, what the effin jeffin? And your subconscious wants to keep you where it feels safe, and that's okay. So if you've ever had a big income month and then you suddenly stop selling, [00:08:00] that's your subconscious correcting the unfamiliar.
If you've ever got a huge opportunity and suddenly started overthinking, that's your subconscious trying to keep you small. If you've ever procrastinated On that one thing that you God damn well know would move your business forwards. That's your subconscious keeping you at your current level, because if expansion has ever felt overwhelming or unsafe, your nervous system will shut down and honestly, that's why so many entrepreneurs sabotage their next level without even realizing it.
Now, if you associate scaling with pressure, you're going to resist hiring support. One thing I work with my clients a lot with if you believe that this ease of scaling isn't real You will carry on making your business harder than it needs to be if you see yourself as someone who works hard for every Penny because that's what you saw your dad do Every single day when you were growing up, you will [00:09:00] struggle to receive wealth without burning out.
We have to expand your subconscious capacity. You have to allow yourself to love and nurture and And give your old identity a little hug and say thank you for getting me here, but I move differently now. Because this next level self doesn't just think differently, she moves differently. And you cannot create a new level of success from the same self concept that built you.
And you have to start holding yourself as her now. It is so, so important. So, how do we start shifting into that new self concept? Because you cannot create a new level of success from the same self concept that built this one. You cannot hold [00:10:00] multiple six or seven figure success while still seeing yourself.
For like as someone who isn't there yet, you cannot become the one whilst holding onto the identity of someone who is still proving their worth. So how do we shift your self concept, not just in theory, not just a quick journal prompts, not just a quick, let me have a think about it for five minutes and then do nothing with it, but in a way that rewires your subconscious.
changes your nervous system response, and then directly shifts your business results. Lucky you're here, because I've got a step by step roadmap for the rest of the podcast. So, buckle in.
Step number one, we want to identify your current self. Concept. And what I mean by that is the version of you running your business right now, because the business you're running today is built from the [00:11:00] concept, the self concept you hold right now.
Your self concept is the identity. Right. It's this is this is identity, deep identity work that you hold at subconscious level. So it's your automatic thoughts. It's your automatic beliefs. It's your automatic perceptions that you have about yourself that dictate every decision, every move you make in your business.
And most entrepreneurs will Continuously go to thinking that their actions create their success, but actually your actions are always a byproduct of who you believe you are. So if you believe at your core that your still trying to figure it out, you will act like someone trying to figure it out instead of leading.
If you believe that, well, I'm not the kind of person who easily attracts this high ticket, high caliber client that I want, you will subconsciously repel them through the energy, [00:12:00] messaging, and positioning. And if you feel, the biggest one I see, I have to work harder to earn more, you will make things harder than they need to be.
Even when ease is literally knocking at your door, everything in your business is a reflection of who you believe you are. So action step number one, these will all be in the show notes, but I want you to, to have a ponder on this. What are three subconscious beliefs I currently hold about myself as a business owner?
We went there straight away. What are three subconscious beliefs I currently hold about myself as a business owner? Number two, how do these beliefs impact the way I show up, the way I sell, and the way that I execute my strategy? Number three, if my [00:13:00] business was a mirror of my self concept of my identity, what Is it reflecting back to me right now?
These might feel a little bit uncomfortable, but it's what we're frickin here for because I know that you're ready to move through this. So, what are the three subconscious beliefs I currently hold about myself as a business owner? How do these beliefs impact the way I show up, impact the way I sell, impact how I execute?
And if There was a literal mirror on my business, your self concept, what is reflecting back to you right now. So really getting to know, really getting to understand, let's start there. And be very neutral with these. You now have the information to start to shift. So I don't want you to be like, Oh my God, I hate myself.
I can't believe I've been doing this. No, no, no. That is not the energy we have around here. We come to these questions with curiosity. [00:14:00] Ah, I kind of see why things haven't been working the way that I want them to. Ooh, that feels interesting. Let's have a little dig, dig, dig. You see the change. You see the difference, right?
Step number two. We want to define your next level self concept, so who you need to be to hold that next level. This is all very much Higher Self stuff that we have done in and out on the podcast and a lot in the Subconscious Membership. If you were already the next level version of yourself, how would you move?
What is that next level? Level self concept. So if you already had. whatever money months you want or if you already have the business you desire, how would you structure your day? If you already had thousands of people watching you, how would you show up online? If you already knew your success was inevitable, [00:15:00] what decisions would you make differently today?
Really understanding what this next level self concept is how are you thinking? How are you feeling? How are you acting? Your business will always rise to meet your self concept. You have to go first. You have to go first. And all of a sudden you're like, Oh my God, Beckett's clicking. Like when I get to this position with clients, when we've done, like, we've done the dig in, we've done the understanding, we know the limiting beliefs were really kind of.
wading through all of that and we get to this identity piece and then we start shifting in real time and we're bouncing back and yes sometimes the self doubt is still there but we're listening, we're kind of in it for 10 minutes and then we snap back out of it. When we start to shift their self concept and I can really see it because I, their voice changes, the way they show up [00:16:00] changes.
The way they speak to me changes, their business always rises up to meet them. Hands down every freaking time. It is not the other way around and I know the other way around sounds so logical and so consciously understanding that we do something and then we get something. That equation, but it truly is the other way around especially with this identity of yours So I really want you to spend some time get your candles on it.
Do whatever you need to do Defining your next level self concept. How does she sell? How does she show up? How does she do stories? How does she write? content. How does she speak to that high caliber client that she wants to speak to? Really understand that. How does she work out? How does she be in a relationship?
Like, find everything out about how does she handle money? Like, really having a look and a think, using all the senses, [00:17:00] really tapping into that thinking, feeling. Tasting, smelling, you go for gold on this one to really understand that self concept. And then we move into step number three, which is the rewiring.
We want to rewire your subconscious to hold this new identity because if you don't change the programming, the neural pathways, if we don't wire together and fire together, you'll keep snapping back to the old you. They think, a lot of people, deciding to act as if is enough. But what they haven't done is rewired the deep rooted belief system and the nervous system responses to keep them at their current level.
So, to rewire your self concept at a subconscious level, the first thing I want you to do is this identity based visualization. So, instead of visualizing the outcome, the money, the [00:18:00] followers, the sales, I want you, I've said this in the podcast before, to visualize yourself as the person who already holds it.
The person who has safety around it. She's already got it. It's, it's neutral. It's natural to her to have it. How does she think? How does she move? How does she respond when challenges arrive even? Really visualizing. Yourself as the person who already holds it, rather than just visualizing the outcome, seeing the picture on your vision board or scrolling Pinterest, tap into the safety around it.
She's already holding it. It's already hers. First step. Number two. With any work that you've done, and that's probably going to be coming out in question number one through those journal prompts, is the limiting beliefs that came up. So every subconscious belief creates a very predictable action, and I want you to identify the beliefs that are keeping you stuck.
do the work around them. If you [00:19:00] need help with this, there is a lot of limiting belief shifting in the subconscious membership or best place my wonder one. We want to take those old beliefs and start to reprogram that new neural pathway to really start to shift. Take that old belief, whether it's. I'm not ready yet.
What is the new belief going to be? Or maybe the jumping, the like kind of next belief that feels okay for you to step into. It could be, I'm not ready yet. And then the new belief or the better thinking thought, I create readiness through action. Very different, very two different thoughts that are going to take to create two very predictable actions.
So reprogram your limiting beliefs. And then the third thing is really expanding your nervous system to hold more. So your body, not only your subconscious, but your body needs to feel safe holding success. So whether that [00:20:00] is through EFT tapping or hypnosis or breath work, going and standing out in the garden with your feet in the mud and in the grass, whatever you do to just Create safety in your nervous system.
That's why I do my safety dance because it's getting into my body, like really creating the need to hold safety, hold success in your body. So whether daily you spend five minutes stepping into your future self's mind before you're starting your work day, or you. Work on one subconscious belief every morning or you regulate your nervous system by normalizing success.
I would be doing these things daily to really rewire. Your subconscious needs repetition. Look back at how many times you've repeated the beliefs that don't serve you. How many times have you said, this isn't happening for me, or will it ever happen, [00:21:00] or I'm not good enough. Like if you've said that a hundred times.
every day for the last five years, that's going to be a very well trodden neural pathway. So for this new belief, the new actions, the new way of you showing up, thinking, feeling, acting, you need to repeat repetition, repetition, repetition. Don't just listen to this podcast, feel that you've got a bit of a breakthrough and an aha moment, and then do fucking nothing with it.
That's not what you are here for. Take this and go and put it into your day to day. Repetition. Repetition. You don't just think as her, you move as her. So, today, for the rest of the day, whenever you are listening to this podcast, I want you to play out, do that visualization. Visualize yourself as the person who already holds it, already has it all today, and then move as that highest level [00:22:00] self today.
And then ask yourself at the end of the day, did I move as my highest level self today? Where did I hold back? How can I shift tomorrow? You don't need more time. You need to step into her today. Your self concept truly is the key to everything. You shift that, and like I said, your entire business changes so.
Becoming the version of you who actually does it, who actually has it, who actually is it, is what we are focusing on after this podcast. I will pop everything in the show notes so you've got the journal prompts, etc. Your business will not outgrow your self concept. So we are really. Looking at shifting this today.
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Welcome to The Subconscious Expert, the podcast where your subconscious becomes your one-way ticket to the mind-blowing results you desire in your life and business! I’m your host, Rebecca Haydon, The Subconscious Expert who went from being stuck in victim mode to a multi 6 figure business owner. Each week, I will be giving you the subconscious tools and techniques so you can become the woman who is living out her vision with a life and business that she is truly OBSESSED with. I have said it before, and I will say it 100 times again: "Your business can't outgrow your mindset, and if you want to grow your business, it always starts with growing your subconscious." So let's dive into the subconscious breakthrough you so deeply deserve!