Success Story: Transforming Your Life by Tapping Into Your Higher Self with Jacqueline Renee [ep.139]

8 Aug

Only when we started to work together did she understand that she was only scratching the surface and that the reason why she wasn't seeing desired results in business was because of her limiting beliefs. Join us to hear more about Jacqueline's journey, what transformation she experienced as we worked together on her mindset, and tools that allowed her to tap into her higher self until she eventually became her higher self version. You don't want to miss this episode!

More about Jacqueline Renee:

Jacqueline, aka the Menstrual Mogul, is a Cycle Syncing Coach and Business mentor. She has helped countless women sync multiple aspects of their lives, including their business strategy, with their cycle to generate more energy, time, and freedom in their lives. Through her teachings, you will never feel like you're in a classroom or a doctor’s office learning about your cycle but rather feel like you're learning practices that are simple, achievable, and easy to implement into your everyday life.

Topics covered on Tapping Into Higher Self:

The importance of deep mindset work, tapping into the higher self, and addressing underlying limiting beliefs.
How did Jacqueline overcome the feeling of always being behind?
Setting boundaries and creating a routine that supports your well-being.
How does Jacqueline tap into her higher self and attract higher caliber clients?
Making money while having fun in your business.
Jacqueline explains the concept of "raspberries" and the power of writing out your goals as if they've already happened.
Jacqueline shares how hypnosis and visualization can help you tap into your higher self and transform your mindset.
Understanding and harnessing the power of your menstrual cycle in your business.
How to optimize your productivity by syncing with your menstrual cycle?
Tracking your entire cycle, not just your period, for greater awareness and empowerment.
How do hormones impact your brain function and influence your mindset?
The life-changing impact of working with a coach and implementing cycle syncing practices.

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Quote:

“There's no distance between my higher self and me anymore. I am her, I am embodying her.” - Jacqueline Renee

Transcription:

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[00:00:00] Jacqueline: I. Hello

[00:00:03] Rebecca: everyone. Welcome back to Higher Self & I. And I, I've already given her a glowing introduction, that's for sure. But I wanna welcome one of my gorgeous six month one-to-one clients, Jack a k, a, the menstrual mogul. Welcome to Higher Self and I.

[00:00:20] Jacqueline: Thank you. It's an absolute honor to be here, Beck.

[00:00:24] Rebecca: I am so excited for us to sit down and really dive into what it truly looked like or looks like working together.

[00:00:31] Rebecca: And I know, I know personally the journey that you've been on, and I'm very excited for you to share that with the listeners and open up to where you were and what you've worked on. And I know kind of that embodiment piece is a huge part for you. So I'm excited to dive in. Are.

[00:00:49] Jacqueline: Yes, I'm ecstatic. I cannot wait.

[00:00:52] Rebecca: Good. So let's start from the very beginning. It's a very good place to start. Um, it was really, really weird, wasn't it? How we kind of came across each other. I'd done a guest expert in a mastermind that you are part of, and I remember just getting a little message, little Instagram message from you afterwards.

[00:01:11] Rebecca: I'm being like, oh, wow, okay. She's, she's really quite interested and in you jumped and it was literally like, Nothing. You didn't think about it, you didn't hesitate. You're like, I am a full body in, but just let the listeners know where you were at, what had happened, kind of what was going on when you jumped into working

[00:01:29] Jacqueline: together.

[00:01:31] Jacqueline: Okay, so life before Beck, which was before I heard you speak on that Mastermind call was, I have been in the online space for 10 years, so I've been an entrepreneur for 10 years. However, I shifted into the niche and the industry that I'm in now about a year ago, specifically for helping female entrepreneurs and.

[00:01:56] Jacqueline: In that I, I, I felt like I was a seasoned coach in many ways because of how long I've been in the online space, and I didn't realize how much my mindset was actually messed up until I started working with you. And I mean that in the best way possible. But I was one of those coaches that was taught to do personal development and to be.

[00:02:24] Jacqueline: Uh, walking example of what you preach. And so I felt like I had that down very packed. I listened to podcasts. I was investing in strategy. I was walking the walk of what I teach like to a t. However, I wasn't seeing the results that I desired in my business. And I, when I, when I heard you speak for the first time on that mastermind call, I was at.

[00:02:48] Jacqueline: Crossroads because I am, I had invested so much money in this Mastermind and it was an amazing mastermind. I learned so much. I met wonderful women, but [00:03:00] I. Assumed that by investing in it and simply by being in the room, that that was enough in order to make the type of money that my mentor at the time was making.

[00:03:11] Jacqueline: And that is no shame on my past mentor or the girls in the room. It was all on me because I made that assumption. So when I came to work with you, I realized that. I wasn't really doing deep work or the mindset work that I hear so many female entrepreneurs talk about. I was skimming the very surface and because of being in the online coaching industry for 10 years, there was a lot to peel back.

[00:03:42] Jacqueline: I'm, I'm like a onion. I have so many layers to peel back, and there was just, So much underlying stuff within my personal life and my business life that needed to be addressed, transformed, and really brought to the surface so that I could do that deeper work that led me to the success that I wanna see in my business.

[00:04:04] Jacqueline: Yeah, I love

[00:04:05] Rebecca: that. And I think I remember, I remember so succinctly you said you messaged me and you were like, I just am so blown away at the fact that I thought I was doing the work. Like I genuinely thought listening to the podcast and reading the books and doing my journaling was like me doing the work and like it was.

[00:04:22] Rebecca: So much more than that, wasn't it? When we got into it and when you started, we started to like unpeel those layers and I think so many people get wrapped up in them thinking that they're doing the work and they're creating the, the shifts and whatever that is, when actually it's just putting the bandaid on, which is what I call it, that, you know, like just keep saying the affirmations like that.

[00:04:45] Rebecca: That'll do it. What, what, when was it that you realized that you were like, wow, the, the, the layers here? Like, can you remember that moment?

[00:04:57] Jacqueline: Yes, I, I mean, I can't pinpoint any one specific moment and to be honest, I mean we're still currently working together, Beck, and it's like a constant thing, like, and it's helped so much.

[00:05:09] Jacqueline: I mean, so much has transformed as I'm sure we'll get into since working with you. But it is something that I am now realizing. I know you know this, but maybe your listeners don't. Be working this shit forever. So, um, I just, I just remember having our calls and. Doing the practices and exercises that you do within your mentorship, which if anyone's listening to this and has ever felt frustrated by talk therapy of not getting like practical stuff to do afterwards.

[00:05:46] Jacqueline: No shade to talk therapy. But I like did my fair share of that and never got the tactical and practices to transform my mindset and get me out of these. Um, [00:06:00] Almost systems. I was like stuck in or like the, this limbo I was stuck in until I started working with you, Beck. So that was the most transformational when after our first call you're like, okay, now do this, this, and this.

[00:06:13] Jacqueline: I'm like, yes, homework. Like, I want to work on this. I was someone who desired to change before. I started working with you. I just had no idea how to get myself out of these pathways that I had embedded so deeply in my brain, my subconscious, and I didn't realize how much my past career that comes up all the time, the messages that I was sent the past 10 years around.

[00:06:38] Jacqueline: Being an entrepreneur and what that entails and what I want it to be now like, versus what I want it to be now is so much different. So I just feel like, um, it's been like a process overall that like just continues to get better and better. And I don't wanna say easier, but it's more familiar, so it's not as.

[00:06:58] Jacqueline: Scary and harsh as like unpeeling, that first layer, if you will.

[00:07:03] Rebecca: Yeah, and I think that always happens, doesn't it? I, that's what I love. That's why I love what I do, is that, okay, how many actionable things can I give you? And it might work from client to client. People are different and it resonates a different thing people, but I want you to be able to coach yourself, which I definitely know that you do now, you know?

[00:07:22] Rebecca: Yes. We, I'm still there and you are in Voxer and we have conversations and stuff, but it's almost like you coach yourself before you come into Voxer and then we'll have the conversation Now. It's very different to how you, how we started and, and what that looked like. And I think, like you said it, yes. It never gets, you never stop doing the work, but it does get more familiar and it does get more boun, your bounce back.

[00:07:46] Rebecca: I talk about bounce back ability a lot with my one-to-one clients, and your bounce back is like insane now, isn't it? Like so? Mm-hmm. Such a quick turnaround and the fact that you sometimes don't even think about the thought that you're having. You're like, oh, okay. The thought's there, right. Let's change it.

[00:08:00] Rebecca: Boom. Okay. Done. It just happens, doesn't it? It

[00:08:03] Jacqueline: it's that awareness factor that I thought I was even going into therapy for many years. I'd be like, I'm a self-aware person. I'm a self-aware person. Like I know that this isn't right, that I'm doing this, this, and this, but I never knew why. And. You know me and like anyone that knows me, I have to know why something is the way that it is.

[00:08:24] Jacqueline: I am a truth seeker, so what I love about the work you do with your clients is that it, it's finding that truth and knowing why you behave or react or act out in certain ways, and then you're finally able to address it. Just like anything with our health, if we know why something is happening, Like even that is a huge weight off of your shoulders, and I find it to be the same with the subconscious work too.

[00:08:51] Rebecca: Especially because it's such a big concept to grasp. It's such a big, you cannot hold onto it. Right. You know, like that's, that's why people [00:09:00] don't buy into it because there's nothing tangible to show from it sometimes. And that, you know, that's, uh, something that you have to face. But I think being able to go, oh, right, I understand that that's actually what's happening in my brain.

[00:09:12] Rebecca: And I talk about the neuroscience a lot in the membership, which I think helps people. Mm-hmm. As well, but it's like, oh, okay, now I get it. Like I get it and now I can move through it. And that was happening a lot, wasn't it, at the beginning.

[00:09:24] Jacqueline: Yes. A lot. Yes.

[00:09:26] Rebecca: So let's go back to the very beginning and I know we, we kind of really tapped into a few beliefs that came up.

[00:09:35] Rebecca: I think the kind of you being the rebel and being in that and that being Okay. That was a big one that we worked through right at the very beginning, which feels forever ago now. I know. It was only like mm-hmm. Just shy of six months ago, but it just feels forever ago now. But what was the, if you don't mind sharing, I just shared that actually.

[00:09:55] Rebecca: I'm so sorry. But you know, I don't care.

[00:09:58] Jacqueline: I'm an

[00:09:58] Rebecca: open book. You don't mind sharing. What were some of the beliefs that we worked on at the beginning, um, and what do they look like now for you?

[00:10:07] Jacqueline: Yeah, so I actually checked in on my notebook. I like took notes for, from the first time we had a call for our 90 minute call.

[00:10:19] Jacqueline: And one thing that I had written down was I'm always behind and do you know what's crazy back? Is I, I don't know if at that moment I knew why. I felt behind all the time. And then I know you always talk about in your podcast and the membership about how what we experienced from age however to seven or that, that window of time as a child, I, this morning opening, opening the refrigerator had a memory, a core memory come up of how I got lost as a child.

[00:10:52] Jacqueline: And then it became a recurring dream and I was. Like behind. I'm like, where's, where's my parents? Where's this like, I, I was lost in a new city, um, on vacation for like a short amount. It was probably the shortest amount of time, but in child years it felt, or child time, it felt like years, right? So I was like, I think that's sl.

[00:11:15] Jacqueline: That subconscious belief coming up here. So that just blew my mind. But that was something I always felt like was, I'm always behind. I felt like I was rushing throughout my day. I felt like I was behind on some of my accolades and goals or lifestyle. You know how. The picket fence, the owning a house, the getting married, having kids like I'm, I'm never gonna be that woman.

[00:11:40] Jacqueline: So like I've always felt like an outcast or behind. And so that was one mindset and thought and subconscious thought that we worked on a lot, I believe. And that. To be fair can come up time and time again, but I really know why it's there now and that it's not true [00:12:00] either. Yeah.

[00:12:01] Rebecca: Yeah. And I think like, like we really looked at your routines, didn't we?

[00:12:04] Rebecca: Right at the very beginning and I think that had a big part play in the, I'm always behind and I really resonated with you at that moment, which I didn't tell you. 'cause I don't, I don't usually say, you know, when my client, my clients, Sometimes go through what I'm going through and I'm like, same. I wouldn't do that as a coach, but now, but you know, I really felt that when I moved back from Australia, because I was always ahead of everyone.

[00:12:30] Rebecca: Like I was, I was 12 hours ahead of most people. And so when I moved back to the UK I was like, oh my God, like I'm now on the same time as everyone and I, I don't have these couple of, it makes no sense, but like that really resonated. When you

[00:12:43] Jacqueline: said that? Yes, and I think it what you're referring to is like, I'm from the east coast of the United States, and now I live in Jackson Hole, Wyoming, which is mountain time.

[00:12:52] Jacqueline: So I'm two hours behind everyone. So I was checking my phone in the morning and people had lived full ass lives before I had even gotten out of bed. So yeah, we worked on routines, especially some boundaries around phone. Yeah.

[00:13:04] Rebecca: So that wasn't it. So I think the first thing that we did do was, was put in a lot of boundaries and really allowing you to have that time for yourself and have that time to tap in.

[00:13:15] Rebecca: And I know that that is an absolute habit. That is just, you don't even think about now. It's just something that you do no comes so naturally, and I know that was one of the things that we worked on. It's nice to reflect sometimes, isn't it, to see like, oh, wow. Like I just do that without thinking now and how much that

[00:13:31] Jacqueline: I truly do.

[00:13:32] Jacqueline: Yeah, it's like a non-negotiable and, and if I don't, for whatever reason, maybe if I'm outta my usual routine, I feel it. It's not a good feeling. So even just having that, again, awareness around these things that are triggering deep-rooted thoughts or feelings is so, so helpful.

[00:13:50] Rebecca: Yeah, for sure. And especially when it came to, um, I know that was having such an impact, wasn't it, when you were going on your phone in the morning and then that I running out of time and then the comparison, and then it was kind of having this impact on how you then sh like showed up for the rest of the day, wouldn't

[00:14:06] Jacqueline: it?

[00:14:07] Jacqueline: Yes. Yeah, and what I love about that is that it's something that we worked through, and I'm sure you see this with a lot of your female entrepreneur clients, like with mine. Every single person needs help with boundaries around their. Phone. So now that I've gone through it and like have done the work that you kind of like showed me the way to do, it's, it's something that enhances my client's experience as well, which is what coaching is all about.

[00:14:31] Jacqueline: So it's

[00:14:32] Rebecca: for sure. And I love that ripple effect. That's like, I'm like, that's what I'm here for. Um, okay, so we, we kind of got that down pat. We got, we got you in the groove with your boundaries and I think like one of the next big things that I. Feel has been a massive impact on not only how you show up, but as a business owner and where you wanna be was really tapping into that higher caliber of client, like you really [00:15:00] showing up for that woman being that like embodying that and being that.

[00:15:04] Rebecca: Do you wanna speak into that a little bit?

[00:15:07] Jacqueline: Yes, because let me tell you that first of all, Beck is full of surprises when you work with her one-on-one. I thought I was just getting a mindset coach. I barely even knew anything about hypnotherapy. I just, I was one of those unicorn people that heard her speak once and was like, I'm working with you.

[00:15:26] Jacqueline: I need your help. And then I came into it kind of blindly and naive and had the best surprises laying ahead of me because that not only helps you like. Get through some major subconscious and mindset shit, but like her knowledge around marketing, branding and everything else has been. The best surprise I have ever had within mentorship.

[00:15:52] Jacqueline: So I realized between both like the subconscious work and what you help, what exercises you do with clients for like branding and marketing and speaking to ideal clients. I was not speaking to the caliber of clients that I wanted to and. I think part of that was a subconscious thought and a block. But I, I distinctly remember, and I think about this phrase all the time, I am a cycle sinking coach for female entrepreneurs.

[00:16:21] Jacqueline: And I was like, but I'm not making the amount of money that my ideal client is making yet. I, I will be making it. But I haven't gotten to that milestone in this niche, this part of my business yet. And you said, A choreographer isn't like a frontline dancer in the Rocketts or something like, but they still need a choreographer.

[00:16:41] Jacqueline: The, the star of the show still needs someone to help them and they're the expert in that department. And that's the reframe I use like seriously every day whenever I question myself is, yeah, but they still need my help. These people who are making that amount of money still need my help with what I do within my business and everything like that.

[00:17:02] Jacqueline: So that was. Truly transformational. Transformational in helping me feel confident in speaking to that higher level client and then bringing in the specific practices of speaking to her and getting so freaking clear on who that is. That has been a total game changer in my business and who I'm attracting specifically.

[00:17:24] Rebecca: Yeah, and I just, I think we did a lot of work around that. And it was real, it was a real step for you to step away from the, you were in a constant launch pattern, weren't you, when we started working together, which is absolutely fine if you wanna run your business like that. And I think you can chop and change and come in and out of that, you know, whatever that looks like.

[00:17:42] Rebecca: But we were almost working towards the summer where you're like, be, I don't wanna be in these constant launches in the summer. Like I wanna be out. Honestly, you need to go and follow Jack just for fricking stories, like I'm obsessed and we'll be visiting Wyoming. I always feel like I say wrong, but

[00:17:58] Jacqueline: Wyoming.[00:18:00]

[00:18:00] Jacqueline: Wyoming, yeah. Um, or you can just say Jackson Hole. It's Jackson Hole.

[00:18:06] Rebecca: Because it's just stunning. And quite frankly, if I had that at my doorstep, I wouldn't want to be on my computer all the time. And that was one of the focuses, wasn't it, like, of really stepping into. That you sent me that like. I still think about it now.

[00:18:23] Rebecca: You sent me like, uh, like almost like a P d F of each of your clients and I was like, this is actual gold for you and for you speaking to them and you fully standing in that, like that, that for me was such a special moment. Dunno whether I ever told you that, but I was like, this is epic, that you fully said that and you fully understood and now go on to speak to those people as well.

[00:18:49] Jacqueline: Yeah, it was seriously just the permission slip that I needed to speak to those people and to gain clarity. One thing I loved that you helped me with is 'cause I am just a lover of all women at all different parts of their journey, whether it's with cycle sinking entrepreneurship, whatever it is, I have been helping women for 10 years, so that is who I love to support and be.

[00:19:13] Jacqueline: Helping and I felt a lot of guilt around leaving women behind, partly because that's something I dealt with. I was, I did have girl issues growing up. I was bullied, I had feelings of exclusion and being an outsider. And so I feel like in my adult years I'm making up for that by building amazing communities with.

[00:19:35] Jacqueline: Like-minded women, but I have this fear that I'm gonna leave someone behind and I never want anyone to feel that way. And you totally gave me permission to reframe the way I looked at that, because not every woman is gonna be able to pay me the amount of money for one-on-one mentorship. And that's okay.

[00:19:53] Jacqueline: And that's understandable. And there's an offer. There's a journey for every person or woman in their. Journey within my niche or whoever's niches. And so that was a permission slip I feel like I really needed, and then that also gave me permission to lean into the women I do wanna help, which is mainly female entrepreneurs at.

[00:20:15] Jacqueline: Two different levels of their entrepreneurship journey.

[00:20:19] Rebecca: Yeah, I love that and I think that that one of the things that comes up with that, like I know we're diving into all of the mindset breakthroughs right now, but one of the things that came up with that, and I remember came up from having that kind of process, having your levels and knowing you know, who can come and where is you actually started to move into the belief that making money is fun.

[00:20:43] Rebecca: Yeah, like making, for me it gets to be fun. And I know we did a lot of work on that and you know, there was a big part of our journey where you were going quite viral on TikTok and then you, you'd done these things to set yourself up that you get to like, have people come into your Etsy shop and [00:21:00] you know, like everything was like almost started to flow didn't it, because you'd.

[00:21:04] Rebecca: Put all these things in place and you've done that work and set that up for yourself, which was incredible to see. And then adding the mindset into that of like, you know what, like it gets to be fun as well. Just talking to that a little bit. Mm-hmm.

[00:21:17] Jacqueline: Yeah. So I, in my past career, in my past six figure business, I.

[00:21:23] Jacqueline: I made a lot of money, but I was not having fun all the time. I did have fun doing it or else I wouldn't have done it for as long as I did. But basically when I moved from Pennsylvania to Wyoming, I burnt out because of the lifestyle, the lack of boundaries, all that stuff. So, I feel like there was so much messaging going into that first career.

[00:21:46] Jacqueline: You know, it was in the heyday of the girl Boss Gary v Hustle culture. And so, like I mentioned earlier, that stuff still creeps into my brain that no, the way, and, and not to mention, you know, our parents' generation of like work hard, save up and live life once you retire. That's a whole other topic for another time, but that's, That narrative was creeping up and I realized that I, I didn't know that I could have fun and make money at the same time.

[00:22:15] Jacqueline: You know, I would see women on the internet post about it, but I'm like, they must be freaking fake in it. Like they can't be having this much fun or just like having cash roll in like this. And I'm sure your listeners have experienced this if they're female entrepreneurs, but. When things are coming in and you're getting that feedback and it's a momentum that you can run with like freaking run with it.

[00:22:40] Jacqueline: And that's great and it becomes fun. And the more you can keep that ball rolling, the most amazing things can happen. However, if you recall Beck, there was also a time where that completely stopped right in the middle of our mentorship and I wasn't having fun anymore and I was frustrated. And this is where having a mentor is like, The insurance policy you didn't know you needed.

[00:23:01] Jacqueline: And I remember when that was happening, I was like so freaking frustrated and there was probably a million planets in retrograde. And I was also in the part of my cycle where my cortisol was already high as anything. And. I remember you helping me through a lot of things, but the one thing that's like stuck out with me the most is like, how do you feel those feelings without these external things happening, without going viral, without the money coming in, without the Thrive Cart notifications in your inbox and all these other dopamine hits.

[00:23:33] Jacqueline: And that's been, I know one of the questions you're gonna probably ask me today is like, what's been the most beneficial? And I think that really that new subconscious thought is the most powerful is like, how do I make myself feel all these feelings that I feel when things are going really well, when quote unquote, they're not within my business with these factors that I have no control over?

[00:23:56] Jacqueline: And so that's been really transformative, but. [00:24:00] The permission slip to have fun has given me a lot of freedom. There's still like a lot of barriers I work through day to day to give myself that freedom, but. It truly has become a thing where it's like, yeah, I'm gonna make like a fuck ton of money and have a ball wall doing it.

[00:24:16] Jacqueline: And it's a complete possibility. Where in my prior business I, I was taught you have to outwork someone if you wanna be more successful than them in your network. And that was like the only message I was receiving.

[00:24:27] Rebecca: Yeah. The end. And I think like that was the perfect segue into where I wanted to go next, because there is, I work with a lot of clients and.

[00:24:39] Rebecca: I speak about higher self a lot with every client. You know, it's a big part of what I teach. It's a big part of what I do, but I believe, and I know that the way that you take that on and the way that you really hold yourself to that standard has been one of the most profound experiences that I've had with any client.

[00:24:59] Rebecca: And I probably never told you that, but like the way that you hold yourself to your higher self is like, gives me goosebumps, like physical goosebumps. Because, because I know that it's in the cards for you, and I know that you believe that, and I think that's a big part of it as well. But equally, The one message that you put, and I know you shared this with the membership, um, as everyone who works with you, one-to-one gets access to the membership, but you said, you know, I, I no longer see the gap anymore, do you?

[00:25:30] Rebecca: It's, it's kind of like mm-hmm. She's here. I can't remember the exact

[00:25:33] Jacqueline: words you used. Can you remember? I said there's no. There's no distance between us anymore. Like I am her, I am embodying her. So I, uh, Beck knows this, but for listeners that don't, I'm the biggest Beyonce fan ever. And so I always think of Beyonce and her s Sasha Fierce persona, and the woman she becomes, it's kind of like her version of her higher self.

[00:25:57] Jacqueline: You know, we have cool, calm, Beyonce behind the scenes who like doesn't wanna be found by paparazzi ever. And then we have ssa. Sasha, why can't I say that? Sasha Fierce who comes out on stage and is freaking killing it and slaying it in a whole fatty, amazing mess, right? And so I really do see myself having like my own version of that.

[00:26:18] Jacqueline: I call her Athena Dukes. She's just a rebel and a wild Western woman, and that's. That's a persona I've created that I really tap into. And there's obviously different phases of my cycle where I feel like I can tap into her more. But in a practical sense, maybe if you're not a Beyonce fan, there were little things that I did that be taught me along the way in her own way.

[00:26:45] Jacqueline: You know, you've taught or or talked about how you bought your fuzzy Uggs, and that was a way to tap into your higher self and. When you work one-on-one with Becky, you get a customized [00:27:00] visualization that you can listen to. And I included a lot of details in there about like who my higher self is, where I'm living, what I'm wearing, like all these things.

[00:27:08] Jacqueline: And so there were little components. I was like, Hmm, I can do this right now. So that meant buying linen sheets that. I could, I, I'm gonna be building a house, and I had always told myself, I'll just wait till we build the house to invest in sheets. And I was like, You know what? Fuck no. I'm investing in them now and they are my favorite part of the morning when I'm putting Beck's, uh, uh, Beck's voice in my ears with her hypnosis and laying in my linen sheets.

[00:27:36] Jacqueline: I'm like, this is so amazing. Um, so that's one way I tapped into my higher self as well as what her morning routine would look like. I have the Biest morning routine. The boundaries, like we talked about, are there. It takes me until 11:00 AM to complete it. It is ridiculous. But guess what? I chose to be a childless by choice woman.

[00:28:01] Jacqueline: I have nothing but dogs to worry about, and that's what I want my reality to be. And that's what my higher self's reality would be. So if I have the freedom to do that right now, I should probably fucking do it. And so those are just a few like practical ways I was able to. Really channel that and embody it right away without waiting for money or, or other validations to happen to feel like I was at my higher self.

[00:28:26] Jacqueline: So I definitely tap into her. I know there's still things I'm kind of like checking off the list and then your higher self is always getting higher and higher. Right? It's always evolving. So, Will I ever reach a full embodiment of her? No. It's like something that you're always gonna be working to, but in a really satisfying way because you're, you're reaching your goals and what you truly want out of your life along the way.

[00:28:49] Rebecca: Yeah. As you're doing it. And do you think that that was the kind of most.

[00:28:56] Rebecca: You know how you said, like kind of feeling the feelings before you've got it and, and really tapping into that.

[00:29:02] Jacqueline: I would say that, and also like I mentioned earlier, making myself feel valuable and feel a certain way without having external factors. Mm-hmm. Be. The reason why, um, I remember specifically some of the things I was struggling with.

[00:29:18] Jacqueline: Like I had mentioned, I've been in the business for 10 years and so the fact that my female entrepreneur cycle sinking business isn't catapulting isn't because I've been only doing it for one year. It feels like I've been doing it for 10 years. So that was a really frustrating thing that still comes up time to time during certain times of the month.

[00:29:38] Jacqueline: I'm sure you can imagine when, and, and Beck gets like a. A cryptic boxer message from me where I'm like, oh my God. But, um, that was the most powerful because that is just something that any female entrepreneur cannot control. So I always wanted to feel, seen, heard like my work was actually [00:30:00] going towards something and making a difference and making an impact.

[00:30:03] Jacqueline: And you taught me how to really anchor in. Actual practices and habits to make myself feel that way again, without having anyone else be in charge of that. Yeah. And I think

[00:30:16] Rebecca: like that's just such a big part of running your own business, isn't it? Because we're not always gonna get the external validation that we desire or that makes us feel successful.

[00:30:27] Rebecca: And you know, like I say, I've said a lot probably on the podcast as well, like there are times where we don't get external validation and we do have to go back to the drawing board. And maybe it is strategy, but a lot of the time guys, like a lot of the time it's. Not it's, it's just us craving something that we can actually feel right now.

[00:30:46] Rebecca: And there were so many practices that we did for you to, for you to feel that way and for you to be that way and then coexist with it, coming like with it, with you, knowing that it's on the way as well.

[00:31:00] Jacqueline: Exactly. Yeah. Yeah.

[00:31:02] Rebecca: Oh God, there's so many more. I've got so many more questions. Um, but

[00:31:07] Jacqueline: if you,

[00:31:08] Rebecca: um, we've probably covered this, but what, what would you say is your favorite mindset tool that you use now that would've looked different to where before we started together?

[00:31:22] Rebecca: I

[00:31:22] Jacqueline: think the fact that I do the hypnosis and visualization, I always saw that as a little bit too woo for me. But what I love about how you teach here on the podcast, and especially I know in your membership, you're giving an even deeper dive into it, and literally our minds are being blown, but. I like knowing, again, why should I be doing this?

[00:31:47] Jacqueline: What is the effect? Because writing out affirmations and doing a hypnosis, I, I had no idea why that would've been powerful and impactful for me and actually produced me results prior to working with you. But now that I know the science behind it, it's not just a woo concept of manifesting. I really enjoy.

[00:32:10] Jacqueline: Being so intentional with doing the hypnosis every single day, one time at least. And then also writing out my goals as if they already happen because I know it will. Yeah. Uh, help my RASS system. And I was thinking last night, I was like, it'd be cool to call those like my raspberries, like. I don't know if you wanna coin that term, but those are my, I write out my raspberries every single morning of things I've achieved.

[00:32:38] Jacqueline: And like I mentioned to you personally, even if I don't 100% achieve those, there's still a version of it that is achieved, and I'm always closer to that goal than I would've been if I wasn't doing that. So I think. Having the why and then implementing the practices that you give inside your membership and one-to-one have been the [00:33:00] most powerful.

[00:33:01] Jacqueline: But I seriously do it all. Beck knows I'm a star student in her class of life. Um, and just so know I failed out of bus, I failed out of business school. I'm a terrible educational student. Student in that capacity, but not when it comes to mindset and hormones. Yeah.

[00:33:17] Rebecca: He's, he's on it. On it and I think that's when I love it because you know, I can, I say a lot in my marketing online that I'm not here to hold your hand and I will be there to support you and help your mentee bees and all of the other things that go on during our time together, but, I want to empower you to be able to do this yourself and then pass it on to anyone else that you come into contact with, whether that's your clients, whether it's your friends, you know, whoever that is.

[00:33:45] Rebecca: And I think like you really. You didn't take, and you don't take it by half, it's, it's not half-assed ever. And you have reaped the rewards from that in so many different ways, in so many different areas. And being able to then go on and carry on doing what you do in the way that you do it is just so powerful to see.

[00:34:08] Rebecca: And I'm just, So proud of you always, which I tell you all the time, but thank you.

[00:34:12] Jacqueline: I tell me again.

[00:34:16] Rebecca: Thank you. Um, but if you had to sum up the experience of working together so far with me in maybe one sentence, one word, if you've just got one word, that's fine. What would it be?

[00:34:27] Jacqueline: Well, I wrote down here life changing.

[00:34:29] Jacqueline: It truly is life changing. Like I, how I had mentioned earlier, I. Thought I was a self-aware person. I was open to therapy and everything, but I just never felt like I was getting the tools and the implementation part of that felt like I was just talking at someone rather than receiving practical advice that I could actually use in my everyday life.

[00:34:53] Jacqueline: And so life changing doesn't even begin to begin it or like, Like start what working with you has meant to me because it's not only affected my business, it affects my personal self-worth and confidence. It affects my relationships with friends, family, my husband. Like what you're teaching and what you help me through can literally be applied to every aspect of my life.

[00:35:18] Jacqueline: So it, yes, I know you help female entrepreneurs, but it's like so much deeper than that and I just. Love doing this deep type of work with someone such as yourself who I know. I was like blessing your Voxer the other day with how sweet you are. Like when you work with Beck, like she actually is excited about what you're working on, like follows up and is like, Hey, tell me how this went.

[00:35:44] Jacqueline: And you're like, oh yeah, you care. That's amazing. And so just like having that that beautiful back in your back pocket. And like I said, having this. Insurance policy, you kind of like don't know if you'll always use, but when it's there, man, like oh my [00:36:00] gosh. And I, and I use that insurance policy a lot with you.

[00:36:02] Jacqueline: So, but such good. I would just say, yeah, life changing and just really gave me the tools to consistently work towards my higher self and how that will look and evolve as I become the c e O that I know I'm made to be. So,

[00:36:21] Rebecca: Yeah, absolutely. I get shy. I still shy.

[00:36:26] Jacqueline: Don't blush on

[00:36:27] Rebecca: me. No, I love this. Do you've covered everything.

[00:36:31] Rebecca: I feel like

[00:36:33] Jacqueline: I, I dunno how like you should just put me on an infomercial for your services and, hello, welcome. Call it a day.

[00:36:40] Rebecca: Well, now let's pass the mic over to you because the work that you do, and I think it's like so funny when I work with clients, like I obviously learn. A lot of, you know, what you are doing inside your containers and definitely would be something that I invest in either way, you know, with or without me being part of you helping you as a co, as your coach.

[00:37:02] Rebecca: But the way you've opened my eyes, and I know you definitely open a lot of eyes of a lot of other women, um, and quite frankly, comes up with my clients a lot. You know, I've worked with my clients a just. Very, very touching the surface. But let's dive in because I think everyone needs to hear it. I think it's such a, we have the conversation of about it being like, it's quite a new concept.

[00:37:27] Rebecca: It's quite a new mm-hmm idea, a new way of doing things. But actually you. Seeing you do the things you do. This is like the biggest introduction.

[00:37:39] Jacqueline: It better be good when we're talking.

[00:37:44] Rebecca: Um, but the way that I see you show up in your business from the perspective that you teach. Is mind blowing for a lot of people.

[00:37:52] Rebecca: I know. So let's dive in. I know I did an introduction, but let's start from the beginning. Who are you and what do you do?

[00:37:59] Jacqueline: So my other persona besides Athena Dukes is the menstrual mogul. I, I am. Basically what I am is a cycle sinking coach for female entrepreneurs and. As you've heard me talk about, I've been in the business for 10 years.

[00:38:17] Jacqueline: I burnt out from my first six figure business, walked away from it all because of the rate I was going at. And what I mean by that is I was completely ignoring my cycle and its energy ebb and flows as a menstruating mogul, not only in my business but in the health and fitness department too. And so what I help women do is, Educate them around the four phases of their cycle, the different superpowers that come with each phase of their cycle, and how they can strategically lean into their business in a way that aligns better with those superpowers so that they have more energy and time [00:39:00] to back up their million dollar business.

[00:39:03] Jacqueline: Yeah, and

[00:39:04] Rebecca: I think like just seeing you do this and practice this every day, like I was saying before in the, the super long introduction that I gave you, um, it's, it's crazy to think that people think it's them. This is what I see a lot like, it's like, why can't I write content right now? Or why don't I feel like showing up right now?

[00:39:22] Rebecca: Or why do I, why am I behaving like this right now? Or I wanna burn my business to the ground because I'm just about to come on my period. And all of these things that we think cannot be solved. Guys, they can be solved. They can be solved

[00:39:38] Jacqueline: and can be again. Exactly. They can be optimized. So there's a lot of things in the female entrepreneur space that I feel like go against our cycle.

[00:39:48] Jacqueline: One being batch, creating content weekly, or spreading your appointments out all throughout the month or. Do focusing on the first of the month as the time to set goals and review numbers and analytics. If you were educated around your cycle, you would know that maybe that's not the case for you. And so many calendars and structures such as the nine to five work life and like I mentioned like New Year's resolutions, all of these societal narratives go deeply against a woman's cyclical nature.

[00:40:25] Jacqueline: And rather only benefit a dude's hormone cycle, which is a 24 hour groundhog day cycle, where with women, we are a 28 to 30 ish day cycle. And so if women can just zoom out and see their amount of productivity and what they're getting done and what they're accomplishing from a monthly standpoint, instead of this 24 hour standpoint, they're gonna feel a lot less stress, a lot less guilt, and very successful within their own business.

[00:40:55] Jacqueline: Yeah. And

[00:40:55] Rebecca: I think there's so much to it, isn't it? Like you said, there's, there's planning, there's, there's content creation, there's launching, there's going over your financials. Like there's so many things that we do that we think, you know, the show enough that we think that has to be going on every single day.

[00:41:11] Rebecca: And we then blame ourselves as to why. We can't do that or what that is. But actually if we had a routine, which is what you teach, you know, that's part of your one-to-one and uh, uh, some other things that we'll talk about as well, what you do within your product suite. But I've actually been able to show up to your calendar or show up to your business in a way that fully supports the cycle.

[00:41:31] Rebecca: Mm-hmm. I just think it's so magical. Like it is so magical, isn't it?

[00:41:37] Jacqueline: It truly is. I feel like cycle sinking can solve anything. I call it the Windex for women. And that's because my Big Fat Greek wedding is one of my favorite movies ever. And if you've seen that, you know the dad spraying Windex on everything.

[00:41:50] Jacqueline: 'cause he thinks it's just the end all be all for fixing shit. And that's what I think cycle sinking is two and. I truly [00:42:00] believe you can sync anything to your cycle and make it work at least best for you as possible. And the great thing about syncing with our cycle is that since we've been ignoring it for a very long time, for decades, for many of us, the moment you implement anything, let alone.

[00:42:17] Jacqueline: Your whole strategy, you're going to see a difference. You're gonna see exponential results in that because again, it's just not something we factored into our everyday life with whatever goal we've set for ourself for decades. Mm mm

[00:42:32] Rebecca: I love that. And if there was, like, if this was like a completely new concept, which it might be for some people who are listening in our, who are, we're in their ears right now, where would you say to begin?

[00:42:44] Rebecca: Like what, where would you start with

[00:42:46] Jacqueline: this? Yes. I would say to start with tracking more than just your period. When I use the term track, your cycle, many women, rightfully so, we weren't taught how to track our whole cycle. Only when we were getting our period to know if we were pregnant or not. You know, if it were late or not.

[00:43:05] Jacqueline: But I would track your whole cycle and begin to get familiar and bring with the different phases and then bring those. Phases and when you'll be in what phase into whatever calendar you look at every single day. And so if you need an app for that, I love using the My Flow app, F L O, not F L O W, that's a male run company.

[00:43:31] Jacqueline: We wanna work with females and that the My Flow F L O app is great, or Natural Cycles is a good one too, but that's, I think, paid and. Bring that into your calendar so you can begin to consult with it. I have a podcast, the Menstrual Mogul podcast, where I break down the four phases and what the vibes of them are, so you're welcome.

[00:43:52] Jacqueline: You can learn that for free and then just begin consulting. Your cycle's calendar as much as your work calendar and saying no to things when your energy is being, is gonna be lower and saying yes to things when you know it's gonna be higher, or only giving a window to do podcast like this podcast interview is during the time of my cycle where it is optimal.

[00:44:13] Jacqueline: I would not be doing it in a week and a half, even though I love back to pieces. As you guys can probably already hear, I would've said, let's do it next month during this time when this is beneficial because you know, embodiment is. The ultimate thing for me, so I, I would just encourage women to consult that calendar as much as their personal or work calendar.

[00:44:35] Jacqueline: Yeah. I love

[00:44:35] Rebecca: that. And when you've done that with a one-to-one client, like if you've sat down and you've mapped that out, I know that's a big part of what you do and really brought in the boundaries, like you said, and I mean, there's so many other things that you do within that. What do you see starting to change for them in their business?

[00:44:51] Rebecca: Like, 'cause I can imagine it changes so much on the external as well.

[00:44:56] Jacqueline: Mm-hmm. Doesn't it? Mm-hmm. Yes, and I always say the biggest [00:45:00] flex with cycle sinking is the amount of stress and guilt that is going to be lifted off your shoulders. So many women know that they go through these ebbs and flows throughout the month, but they think they're just random spurts of energy or lack of energy.

[00:45:14] Jacqueline: I bet if you looked back and timed it all, you would see that it was during the same part of your cycle each and every month that you lacked or had energy. And so the biggest flex with cycle sinking is just that awareness. Just like with what you do back, like once you're aware, you can't unsee it. And so by not being able to unsee it, you are now walking around your business or your personal life, or just the world in general with eyes wide open and you're like, Hmm, you're, you're thinking more critically and intentionally about.

[00:45:44] Jacqueline: Things that you hadn't before, and because of that, again, you're gonna have more time, more energy, and more grace so that even if you're not implementing the habits that I teach, the awareness is absolutely the biggest flex that I see women experience once they know this information and to know that it wasn't ever a them problem.

[00:46:04] Jacqueline: I mean, I know we all have mindset issues and that's why you're here, but I'm also here to help women know that like maybe if they're inconsistent and this thing or that thing, it's also that. They've just been setting themselves up to go against their cycle for all of their entrepreneurial career. Yeah,

[00:46:20] Rebecca: I love that.

[00:46:21] Rebecca: And it's that permission, isn't it? It's that knowing like the same as when I say, oh, it's the limbic system and the prefrontal cortex that's doing this to your brain and that's why you're thinking this way. And you're like, oh, okay. It's not me. I'm not absolutely mental.

[00:46:37] Jacqueline: Absolutely. And I feel like we need to do an episode sometime because yeah, your brain and hormones change 25% throughout the month, and so there's times where.

[00:46:46] Jacqueline: The brain stuff you're talking about, that's something I'm still learning about, but within your hormones and how that affects your cycle is totally connected. So it's so interesting, but not surprising at the same time how it all just works together. Symbolically. Yeah,

[00:47:01] Rebecca: absolutely. Yeah. Let's, let's get that in the diary.

[00:47:04] Rebecca: We'll, we'll, we'll come back with you for that one. Um, where shall people find you, if they were starting anything, like, if they were starting on the cycle, cycle singing journey, where would you kind of pinpoint them to go? Within your

[00:47:18] Jacqueline: world? I would say I just launched my podcast in July of 2023 if you're listening to this.

[00:47:25] Jacqueline: So the Menstrual MOG podcast is amazing to start with because I do truly, I don't break this stuff down on my social media accounts. Beck knows this. I have boundaries around what I'll share on social, and I really want to educate. With women who are intentional about being serious about learning this.

[00:47:44] Jacqueline: So my podcast is the place where I do that. Um, so I break down the four phases, what their vibes are, and there's resources within that that you can lean into. And I also have a bunch of free masterclass resources for female entrepreneurs that [00:48:00] go over power plays. You can do the week of your period, or how to have boundaries for when you go viral that benefit your cycle or.

[00:48:09] Jacqueline: I forget the other one. I'm, it's, it's lost on me right now, but I have a bunch of free master classes that come with PDFs and stuff like that, but I also have. A slew of courses. And then one-to-one is what I'm really focused on now because I just love, love helping women on a one-to-one level. Um, but with any of this, I love to have a conversation in my dms because I think each woman and their needs are so unique.

[00:48:35] Jacqueline: So I love playing matchmaker with what offer or resource would suit you best. Yeah, I was

[00:48:42] Rebecca: gonna say it's the um, I bet it's so personal from one person to the other,

[00:48:46] Jacqueline: the same as mindset, like Yes. And I love that. I love it. I love getting personal, no surface level shit in my world, so I can't confirm.

[00:48:57] Rebecca: I can't confirm.

[00:48:58] Rebecca: Well, thank you so much for joining me. Where can people find

[00:49:02] Jacqueline: you? At Menstrual Mogul on TikTok Instagram threads, if that's still a thing when you're listening to this, dunno how that one's gonna pan out. It.

[00:49:19] Rebecca: Amazing. I'll pop everything in the show notes. I love you to death, to be honest. I love you, absolutely love working with you, and we've still got time together, which is amazing, and I'm just so proud of what you've achieved and what you're gonna go on to achieve and everything that you have in your back pocket now.

[00:49:36] Rebecca: And thank you for singing my praises. I. Find it very hard to listen to. It's something that I'm working

[00:49:42] Jacqueline: myself. Get ready for it. Yeah, all the words of affirmation. Thank you so much. Come in and

[00:49:50] Rebecca: thank you everyone for listening. If you wanna go and follow and listen, everything is in the show notes, um, around what we've just spoke about today as well.

[00:49:58] Rebecca: So I'll see you on the next

[00:49:59] Jacqueline: episode. Bye.

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